L. S. Dryden · Poetry

An Ode to Friendship

When we first met long ago

Didn’t think we would click

Somehow we would learn about

What made each other tick.

Like the fox and the little prince

Our respect and trust grew

Saw the best and worst in us

Quirks and temperament too.

When we went through tough times

We stood by to offer

An ear, shoulder, helping hand

Found solace in each other.

Decades later here we are

Learning as we go along

We’ve come so far as friends

The ties that bind us are strong.

L. S. Dryden

L. S. Dryden · Poetry

The Things We Say

We go ahead and say

Whatever comes to mind

Not thinking that our recklessness

Is hurtful and unkind.

We tend to render judgements

So freely and so rash

As if we knew the details

As if we knew the facts.

We can be indiscreet

Then waste our time in gossip

The pains and lies we spread

Let’s mind our words instead.

L. S. Dryden

L. S. Dryden · Poetry


From the moment we open our eyes

We choose what to perceive

Resplendent beauty all around

Or the ugly and the negative.

It’s how you view the world

That determines what you see

Not cloud but silver lining.

Not challenge but opportunity.

It’s up to you to decide

How to regard your circumstance

To be happy in life is a matter of choice

Not just a matter of chance.

L. S. Dryden

L. S. Dryden · Poetry

Reality Bites

In my mind’s eye I could see

A world of wondrous beauty

Everyone has what they need

And every heart is happy.

I blinked and saw the scene change

As reality set in

Suffering and poverty

Defaced what I had seen.

Although a bit disheartened

I forge ahead determined

The goal is to get closer

To life as I imagined.

L. S. Dryden


L. S. Dryden · Poetry

Motive for Kindness

The souls we meet

In paths we’ve been

Some bearing smiles,

Some stoic mien.

And underneath

Where none can see

Our burdened hearts

Enchained, unfree.

So when they tend

To overwhelm

The silent wars

Waged in our realm

Be kind despite

This plight of man

We all just do

The best we can.

L. S. Dryden

L. S. Dryden · Poetry

Behind the Pseudonym

Anonymity is bliss

Anonymity is liberating

Fame just feeds the ego

Fame is fleeting.

Every labor of love

Each work of art

Hints of my soul

Glimpses into my heart.

The message, the rhythm

The symphony of lyrics

These are the essentials

Not renown or merit.

L. S. Dryden

L. S. Dryden · Prose

Tips on Tiffs

When you’re in love, everything’s perfect.  Feels like a match made in heaven.  The happily ever after you’ve always dreamed of.  You wish it would stay that way.

Reality check. Things won’t always be going smoothly. There’s bound to be bumps down that road.  There’ll be snags along the way.

Squabbles and misunderstandings will arise however much you guard against them.   While they’re a menace to relationships, they somehow serve a purpose.  They help couples get to know themselves and understand each other better.

Having had my share of tiffs, I’m beginning to have a better understanding of this aspect of relationships.  Here’s a rundown of things I’ve learned thus far. There’s more I need to know for sure but this is a good start.

 You are not perfect. Neither is your partner. Both of you have shortcomings. Be more accepting and forgiving of each other.  Don’t get into the habit of faultfinding.

Pointing fingers at each other doesn’t help.  Remember, when you point a finger 3 more are pointing back at you.  Stop thinking you’re right and your partner is wrong.   Swinging to the other extreme and acting like the aggrieved party doesn’t help either.

You’ll never be exactly the same.  Sometimes your views or choices will differ.  That’s normal because you’re two separate individuals.  Remember this is not a contest or a power struggle.  Compromise or agree to disagree.

Don’t try to change your partner.  No one wants to be controlled or manipulated.  If there’s something you want to change, start with yourself.  Once you’ve changed, your partner may respond accordingly.

Your partner is not a mind reader.  Express your thoughts and feelings.  This includes even those small issues that bother you.  Don’t trivialize them.  Don’t sweep them under the rug lest they fester and cause a major and oftentimes misplaced emotional outburst.

Don’t keep scores of each other’s faults.  In that kind of competition, no one wins.

It’s easier to settle issues when you discuss and not argue.  In bringing up a concern, remember that your timing,  approach & tone make a lot of difference.   Going on the offensive puts your partner on the defensive.  You will have better chances of getting answers if you calmly ask the right questions.

Never take your partner’s feelings for granted.  Always appreciate each other.  Don’t get tired of saying “I love you. Please. Thank you.”  The little things count a lot.

Let love be a constant.  When in a tiff, make a distinction that the issue is about not liking what was said or done.  Hate the sin but love the sinner.

Don’t meet fire with fire. If one is fuming mad then it is not a good time to discuss. Don’t engage. Let it pass. But if you must speak, choose your words wisely.  Keep it short. No need to shout and swear. A flair for the dramatics will just aggravate the situation.

Remember that there are two sides to every situation.  When having a misunderstanding, clearly explain yourself then listen with an open mind to your partner’s side of the story.  You’re not the only one getting hurt, you know. You both have a point.

Never let pride get in the way.  Saying “I’m sorry” (even when you know you’re right) and admitting your mistakes make a big difference.

Don’t let squabbles drag on.  Settle them and move on.  Get on with the loving.

Finally, once tiffs are settled, stop bringing them up again.  This is one situation where sequels won’t do you any good.

With every dispute, life is trying to teach us lessons. Learn them. Once we know better, we do better.